When Everything Changes: Necessary Skills for Effective Parenting
Becoming a parent is often described as the most exciting journey of our lives, but having a child can also be an exhausting and anxious time, particularly the first year and the first time around. It is hard to imagine the possible challenges. You are creating a family and now more than ever it is vital to learn how to be an effective team.
While the transition to parenthood can be incredibly rewarding and fulfilling, the practical, personal and relationship difficulties need to be navigated mindfully. Some people expect having a child will solve all of their relationship woes. The truth is, whatever is unresolved in your relationship will be amplified with the addition of a child and inevitable stresses. It is critical to take action instead of allowing your struggles to further divide you. Effective personal skills can be learned and applied to provide healthy modelling for your child(ren) and further connect you as a family.
A Test to Any Relationship. Are You Struggling With:
- Determining roles and responsibilities with your partner
- Increased conflict
- Feeling unappreciated
- Figuring out how to be a cohesive team
- Changes in intimacy
- Grieving the loss of life before children
- Differences about values to raise your child by
“Happiness does not depend on what you have or who you are.
It solely relies on what you think.” – Buddha
Deeper, personal challenges will surface in this new endeavour of parenthood. When unaddressed these personal challenges can impact your relationships and shift from one area of our life to another until resolved.
Soon we realize how our own family system growing up influences who we become as parents. This can be a difficult eye opener when the behaviours we witnessed as children are not necessarily the ones we want to pass on to our children. But what do we do about it?
The relentless demands of parenting can catch us unaware and, having been encouraged all our lives to be self-reliant, many of us find difficulty in asking for help.
Stay Connected Through the Chaos & Deepen your Bonds Through Parenting
The good news is there are steps you can take to ensure both as an individual and as a couple, you can cope with the difficulties encountered, stay connected and fully appreciate the joys of parenthood, should you choose to do the work.
“What can you do to promote world peace? Go home and love your family.”
– Mother Teresa