Janet Lansbury is my go to these days for most things parenting. Her belief that infants are born whole as unique people, deeply occupied with their own thoughts who deserve to be treated as we would expect to be treated really resonates with me. She explains that as babies, we have a powerful instinctive need to understand and be understood, and we trust our parents to show us the way. Since 1994 she has taught respectful parenting classes and written two books, both of which I highly recommend. When you hear ‘Respectful Parenting‘ how does that sit with you? What
Not only can the house be messy but so can our emotions. We try our best to do our best and be our best for our children. We juggle multiple tasks and demands and sometimes something has to give in order for our sanity to be maintained. Sometimes we set the bar really high and it’s relieving to lighten our expectations while remembering that we are still worthy and loveable and capable human beings. Yesterday I connected with a friend and colleague who is also a mother of 2. We were using Skype and normally I try to set myself
It’s a movie and a series on Netflix. Researchers and families explain the significance of the early years. The series goes into more detail and is well worth watching if you want science to remind you just how important parenting is. Get your tissues. Each episode has brought me to (joyful) tears.
Let’s be honest. Motherhood can be hard. Damn hard sometimes. While our children bring us so much love and joy (often more deeply than we have ever felt before) they also challenge us and test our limits. Sleepless nights, hormonal fluctuations, and endless demands of a tiny human add to the mix. Sometimes motherhood is about surviving. We just need to get through the day, hour, and minutes keeping ourselves and our little one alive. We do our best to get through the tasks at hand, gripping tightly to our sanity. This is particularly true in the beginning. At other
What questions were you asked most often when you were pregnant? ‘How far along are you?’ ‘Do you know if it’s a girl or a boy?’ And if you have a child, what question do you hear the most? ‘Oh, Cute. How old are they?’ And many others, I am sure. When I meet someone and tell them I am a therapist the first question they ask is ‘What kind of counselling or therapy do you offer?’ It’s a difficult question to answer briefly but here is my style explained in less than 2 minutes.